KEEPING SAFE ON A DATE

In the interest of keeping you safe and really aware while dating, especially internet dating, I really want to share an experience with you that was shared with me today. The lovely lady who shared it with me got off very lightly.

After dating someone she met on the internet they decided to move to the next level and become more intimate. After a lovely romantic dinner they checked into a hotel for the night. He paid for the evening and she paid for breakfast. It was fun, romantic and the future looked good.

A little later that day she received a call from Credit Card Fraud Protection to say that her credit card had been cloned. She left her credit cards in her bag while she took a shower. Her Date had access to all the details.

Her date called her a little later asking her to pay half the hotel bill. Please note that he posed as a London Barrister, declaring how very financially stable he was, in the process of buying an exclusive property (when she checked on him it was clear that this property had already been sold to someone else).

If you are looking for your life partner it is vital that you make sure he ticks the boxes of your top requirements before you let him into your intimate space. I am hoping that HONESTY is top of your list :)

Along with some very genuine, caring, kind, honest men with great integrity, the internet dating world is plagued with fraudsters, con-artists and men who cannot be trusted. You need to be aware and keep your guard up. Listen to your gut feeling and watch out for RED FLAGS.

There is no way that you can be sure of who someone is and what their values are after only 1 month.

Safety is your primary concern and building a successful relationship follows that.

Wishing you success in finding love

Love
Shelley

7 Great Happiness Tips

Happiness Tip No 1: Smile. Raise the corners of your mouth. Soon your smile will become genuine. The smile that begins as an effort and a pretense quickly grows to become genuine, and given time, a habit of happiness. In the words of Zen master Thich Nhat Hanh,

"Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the sense of your Joy”


Happiness Tip No 2: Forgive someone for something right now. Release the resentment and anger. This practice is for you to become happier. Telling the other person that you forgive them is completely optional, and is merely a bonus.

Happiness Tip No 3: Stretch your body. Do yoga, do qigong, or just stand and stretch. As a simple stretch, stand and hold your arms out to your sides forming a cross. Gently bend each hand back at the wrist until the fingers point straight upward. Twist each hand and arm in a wringing motion.Oh, another thing, Don't compare your life to others,
You have no idea what their journey is all about J

Happiness Tip No 4: Be of service. Find someone who has worse troubles than you and do something nice for them today. .......

Happiness Tip No 5: Turn on happy music and dance. Don't stop 'til you're tired. Dance with someone or dance all by yourself. Choose music that makes you want to move and keep moving such as Latin Fitness Dance music.Have you tried a Zumba Dance class yet?
Happiness Tip No 6: Spend some time with a furry friend. If you don't have your own, borrow a cat or dog to love today....... (I love my dog :)

Happiness Tip No. 7: Take a quiet walk by yourself. Focus on each step and on your breathing. As stray thoughts enter your mind, thank each one, and quickly release the thought and return to a focus on your breathing and your steps. (PS If you are in London - Take an umbrella :) :)compare your life to others, you have no idea what their journey is all about. :)imes your smile can be the source of your joyimes your smile can be the source of your joy."

Sex, Success, Rules and Dating

My belief is that sex is sacred energy. The act itself is the only energy that creates life. I view this as a very spiritual connection. When we decide to cross the bridge of friendship and connect intimately we are embracing one another, not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually too.

On a physical level we take on a partner's energy ...... their viruses, their bacteria, their passion and pace.

It stands to reason that if this happens on a physical level, it must happen on an emotional and spiritual level too. We take on our partner's emotional and spiritual energy.

When we don't really know much about this intimate partner, their physical, emotional and spiritual energy, it could be a very dangerous combination.

Other than just once :) I have always waited at least 5 months, to really get to know my partner before crossing that bridge. I need to know what his Values are, what his short and long term goals are, what he thinks of me, how he feels about me, how he will Value and support me and those I value in my life.

I certainly wouldn't want to share my sacred energy with a man who wouldn't support my values. This cannot be determined in the first few weeks of meeting him.

When coaching my clients I strongly suggest that they find out more about the people they are dating before connecting intimately.

I love the way Steve Harvey writes about it in his book "Act Like A Lady, Think Like a Man" when he advocates the 90 day Rule. I'm a great believer that this Rule works well in the dating world.

To Happy Connections!

THE BEST KEPT SECRET TO RAISING THE BAR IN YOUR LIFE

Saturday 20 March 2010

I am having a glorious day. At home, just my son and I, having quality chats while I prepare for a cheese and wine party with friends tonight.

A little while ago we were chatting about how “Birds of a Feather Flock Together” and you become like those that you spend your time with.

You are a reflection of those you spend your time with.

If you are surrounded by unhappy, overweight, financially desperate, or broke people you will wind up sharing the same fate.

If you want to be healthy, happy, fit, and wealthy, hang out with people who are healthy, happy, fit and wealthy.

Through the years I have watched friends, clients and family members all wanting more in their lives, and yet somehow failing to achieve this because they continue to “hang out” with friends who lower the bar in their lives.

So how do your friends spend their time? Are they constantly complaining about now having enough money …… whining about their partners and bad relationships ……. all the while enjoying their bad health as they take another puff of a cigarette, and never take action to change things?

I keep these people away from my life because they are time wasters, and time is something we can’t buy. When you identify these time wasters, CUT THEM OUT! They will lower the bar in your life and cause great damage.

I was explaining to my son that because I really want the very best in life for myself, and my very precious family, I do not allow time wasters and non-action takers into my space.

I take great care as to how I construct my personal environment. I choose to interact with the few who make me feel great, who love learning, having fun and contribute. They are the ones I want to be around.

What ACTIONS do your friends take? Are they talkers and not Doers?

How are you spending your time? Time is the ONLY limited thing in our life. How your friends spend their time is how you will spend your time.

There are consequences for all choices. As a Life Coach I fully understand about taking Responsibility, and one of the 5 Foundation Rules for my coaching practice is this:TO THE DEGREE THAT YOU TAKE RESPONSIBILITY DETERMINES YOUR SUCCESS

Your success is determined by your Actions and how you spend your time.

Choose who you spend your time with wisely, because this decision will affect you for the rest of your life.

THE SECRET TO OVERCOMING FEELINGS OF OVERWHELM & FEELING LOW

MY OVERWHELM - I NEEDED THIS
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JUST THIS MORNING I WAS SPEAKING TO MY DAUGHTER ABOUT MY FEELINGS OF OVERWHELM, MY STATE, YES MY STATE AN HOUR AGO.
I HAVEN'T BEEN FEELING VALUED.I WAS FEELING SO ALONE, WITH SO MUCH RESPONSIBILITY AND NO ONE BACKING ME.

SO MANY TO LOOK AFTER AND NO ONE TO HELP, THE PAST FEW MONTHS AN ABUNDANCE OF EXPENSES, OVERWHELM AT STARTING ANOTHER BUSINESS VENTURE.

CONCERN ABOUT MY SON WHO HAS SUCH A TEMPERATURE AND IS FEELING SO ILL .....

NOT FEELING LOVED :( ..................

I KNOW THIS MAY SURPRISE YOU, ESPECIALLY FOR THE MANY THAT I COACH AND MOTIVATE DAILY ...... YES I ALSO FIND MY VICTIM STATE AND FEEL SAD AND JUST SIT THERE NOT MOVING FORWARD ....................

WHAT WAS I THINKING!!!!

I REALLY, REALLY, REALLY NEEDED THIS MORNING'S NOTE FROM THE UNIVERSE.

THANK YOU MIKE DOOLEY.

I NEEDED TO BE REMINDED THAT I AM SO DESERVING, I AM SO READY AND MY THOUGHTS ARE ALL THAT ARE BETWEEN ME AND THE LIFE OF MY DREAMS.

SO READ ON AND SEE THAT THIS AMAZING NOTE HAS TO SAY.

WISHING YOU AND ABUNDANCE OF GREAT THOUGHTS AND AN EQUALLY DELICIOUS DAY.

WITH LOVE

SHELLEY

Notes from the Universe 17 March 2010:

This caveat of all caveats is that absolutely nothing can be anything until it is first imagined.

Thoughts become things, nothing else does.

And so, it's the thoughts you choose from here on out that will become the things and events of your life, forevermore.

It is written in stone. There's no other way. It's your ticket to anywhere you can dream of. Your passport to abundance, health, and friendships.

The key to the palace of your wildest dreams. Your thoughts, and your thoughts alone, will set you in motion.

Your thoughts will yield the inspiration, creativity, and determination you need.

Your thoughts will orchestrate the magic and inspire the Universe.

Your thoughts will carry you to the finish line if you just keep thinking them. Never give up.

Never waiver, doubt, or ask. Aim high.

That you've even received this Note, that you're able to read it through, means you are so close.

So extraordinarily close. The hardest work has been done. The wars have already been waged. The lessons have already been learned.

The journey, now, is for home

What do you really want?

We are now into the last few weeks of August, fast approaching the change of Season, for some of you this is Spring and for some of us it is Autumn or Fall.

Every season change I take time to reflect on my life and ask myself 2 questions:

What do I really want?
How will I know when I have achieved this?

Enjoy the speech below and make today fantastic.

Love
Shelley


This was a speech made by Pulitzer Prize-winning author, Anna Quindlen at the graduation ceremony of at American university where she was awarded an Honorary PhD.

"I'm a novelist. My work is human nature. Real life is all I know. Don't ever confuse the two, your life and your work. You will walk out of here this afternoon with only one thing that no one else has. There will be hundreds of people out there with your same degree: there will be thousands of people doing what you want to do for a living.

But you will be the only person alive who has sole custody of your life. Your particular life. Your entire life. Not just your life at a desk or your life on a bus or in a car or at the computer. Not just the life of your mind, but the life of your heart.

Not just your bank accounts but also your soul. People don't talk about the soul very much anymore. It's so much easier to write a resume than to craft a spirit. But a resume is cold comfort on a winter's night, or when you're sad, or broke, or lonely, or when you've received your test results and they're not so good.

Here is my resume: I am a good mother to three children. I have tried never to let my work stand in the way of being a good parent. I no longer consider myself the centre of the universe. I show up. I listen. I try to laugh.

I am a good friend to my husband. I have tried to make marriage vows mean what they say. I am a good friend to my friends and them to me. Without them, there would be nothing to say to you today, because I would be a cardboard cut out. But I call them on the phone and I meet them for lunch. I would be rotten, at best mediocre, at my job if those other things were not true. You cannot be really first rate at your work if your work is all you are.

So here's what I wanted to tell you today: Get a life. A real life, not a manic pursuit of the next promotion, the bigger pay cheque, the larger house. Do you think you'd care so very much about those things if you blew an aneurysm one afternoon or found a lump in your breast?

Get a life in which you notice the smell of salt water pushing itself on a breeze at the seaside, a life in which you stop and watch how a red-tailed hawk circles over the water, or the way a baby scowls with concentration when she tries to pick up a sweet with her thumb and first finger. Get a life in which you are not alone.

Find people you love, and who love you. And remember that love is not leisure, it is work. Pick up the phone. Send an email. Write a letter. Get a life in which you are generous. And realize that life is the best thing ever, and that you have no business taking it for granted. Care so deeply about its goodness that you want to spread it around. Take money you would have spent on beer and give it to charity. Work in a soup kitchen. Be a big brother or sister.

All of you want to do well. But if you do not do good too, then doing well will never be enough. It is so easy to waste our lives, our days, our hours, and our minutes. It is so easy to take for granted the colour of our kids' eyes, the way the melody in a symphony rises and falls and disappears and rises again. It is so easy to exist instead of to live.

I learned to live many years ago. I learned to love the journey, not the destination. I learned that it is not a dress rehearsal, and that today is the only guarantee you get. I learned to look at all the good in the world and try to give some of it back because I believed in it, completely and utterly.

And I tried to do that, in part, by telling others what I had learned. By telling them this: Consider the lilies of the field. Look at the fuzz on a baby's ear. Read in the back yard with the sun on your face. Learn to be happy.

And think of life as a terminal illness, because if you do, you will live it with joy and passion as it ought to be lived".